We use hamachi to connect and here's the deal :
when the connection is made and the chat pop, here's what we BOTH see :

the first player is checked but both of us are plugged in the second player.
note that this is the ONLY WAY for us to play, if we check or uncheck anything else, it just won't start (we tried every combinaison)
the result is we both control the 2nd player, in our own game.
now when we try to choose player 1 and player 2, some random crosses appear and we can't even choose !

so what's the deal, why are the cross here when we didn't choose the players ?! do you understand my problem and if yes can you help me?
we're both playing with version 1.36 and the exact same rom